MilSpouse Secret Santa… Needing Input

I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year. 
~Charles Dickens

Good gosh. Are we really just a few weeks away from October? How did that happen?

Well, it’s almost that time of year when I started last year’s MilSpouse Secret Santa. After finishing it, I swore I’d never do it again. I had too many complaints–some legitimate but none that I could control–about xx didn’t get me $20 worth of stuff and xx never sent me a package and xx never thanked me for my gift. Of course, I had many many more people who loved it, but there were enough complaints to ruin it for ME. And I wasn’t even participating. Although. Sespi over at And You  Never Did Think sent me a gift when she realized I didn’t participate. She didn’t need to, but she did brighten my day 🙂  If you don’t read her, you should. She’s good people. And I heart her blog.

Anyway, I’m far enough away from from the complaining that I would put on my big girl panties and try it one more time. If it turns out the same way this year, I’m done and someone else can do it.

So what would you like the rules to be this year? I’m looking for comments from everyone, but ESPECIALLY those who participated last year.


10 thoughts on “MilSpouse Secret Santa… Needing Input

  1. I think people need to be more grateful and less critical. That said, I think you can establish similar rules to last year and just be honest that people need to only make commitments they can keep. If they can’t afford it or don’t have time, please politely decline to participate. I think that’s the best you can do. And if people complain again this year, like you said, you need to walk away.

    I would LOVE to participate!

  2. I didn’t play last year because I am no good at this sort of thing although I would have loved getting a gift… but who doesn’t. I just knew I wouldn’t have done right by whomever I was paired with. That being said make the first damn rule be to suck it up. Everyone knows going in that you don’t always get awesome gifts and that sometimes you get paired with people who are like me but don’t have enough common sense not to play. It really irritates me that people would even complain to you in the first place. So, everyone here are adults and as such they should act like them and be thankful for what you get and not bitch about what you don’t get. Wifey, if you want me to help pair people up I can so that you can play too. (I will send you an email letting you know that here in a second.)

    Otherwise, your rules from last year were great!

  3. I think the spirit of Christmas needs to be remembered. If someone gives a gift but the person they had flakes out that’s sad for them and they will have to live with that and will be judged for that in some way. You did the right thing, enough said. To the people who complained that what they got wasn’t worth 20.00 or they didnt’ get a thank you..really? That’s all I have to say that would be appropriate for all ears.

  4. Aww, thanks for the shout out! 🙂 I loved Milspouse Secret Santa last year and I thought you did a really good job of organizing it. I had to go back and search to see what the rules from last year were, but I can’t think of anything I would do differently. Except maybe make people sign an agreement before they can play promising that they will not be flakey, or ungrateful, or take out their frustration on you!

  5. I thought you did an amazing job last year! I also think that if someone participated last year yet flaked they shouldn’t be able to participate. IT sounds mean, but that way you won’t have a “repeat” of last years debacle. If you need any help, let me know!

  6. I agree 100% with MeganDubYuh! Your job is to organize it- the participants’ job is to do the rest, good or bad. Maybe you can add a “I am not a referee” clause. 🙂

    I’m looking forward to it- I had a lot of fun doing it last year!

  7. How about if you do participate, it’s UP TO ($) gift…doesn’t mean they have to spend more than $1 if they don’t want to, but should not exceed the dollar amount. That should make the ones that complained about “they didn’t spend $20” not complain since it’s simply stated they don’t HAVE to spend that much on a gift.

    Also, a rule should be to put on your own big girl panties (to the complainers, yet again) and get over it if so and so didn’t send something or spend what you think they should’ve spent or whatever. Things happen. That’s all there can be said to that.

    Maybe that would cut down on complaints at least so it’s more enjoyable, for you anyway!

  8. I’m down but pair me with someone good. Ha! Just kidding. First time to discover MS SS; I’d love to participate and also, I’m not surprised Sespi sent you a gift. She’s just plain awesome… as is the hostess of MSFFI 😀

  9. I know a lot of people enjoyed last year. Not complaining (I promise, I know these things happen), but I never got my gift or heard from the person I sent a gift to. So I would have to think about it a while before participating again. Props for organizing it though – you are a way better person than I am!

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