Even Grocery Shopping Isn’t Safe

Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again, skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts. 
~Author Unknown


I went grocery shopping today and on my list was more pregnancy tests because I’m a glutton for punishment and can’t seem to NOT test even though I’m 99.9% sure it’s not going to be positive. Ya know, because it hasn’t been all weekend.

So I get to the checkout and as I’m putting my stuff on the belt, I notice that the cashier is being REALLY chatty to the person in front of me. Panic ensues. Normal women might enjoy chatting with the cashier… but as someone dealing with infertility, chatty cashiers when I have a pregnancy test to buy make me feel like going into flight-or-flight mode. I wasn’t wrong for having that reaction.

The first thing she said (she’s in her late 30’s to mid 40’s) is, “Ohhhh! A baaaaaby!  Yaaaaay!”  I ignored the comment, but she didn’t stop there (what if I didn’t want a baby and was hoping the test was negative???).  The rest of the conversation went as follows:

Cashier: So you think you are pregnant?

Me: I wish.

Cashier: Have you been trying long?

Me: Quite a while now.

Cashier: Well, I guess if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be, right?

Me:  Uh, I guess.

Cashier: Isn’t it horrible that there are so many people who just throw their babies away and they are found dead? Like on the news this morning, they had a story about the newborn that was thrown away and found dead in the woods.

Me: …..

<<<yeah, I stopped responding at this point… I couldn’t even fake keeping up the conversation at this point>>>


I know the comment about “if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be” was meant to help (which it DOESN’T), but why in the WORLD would I want to talk about people throwing away their babies?  Why?

I don’t think the $2 coupon I wanted to use for the pregnancy tests was worth the heartache of dealing with this. Forget the coupons, I’ll start buying online again.



6 thoughts on “Even Grocery Shopping Isn’t Safe

  1. Maybe you should have been honest with her, to make her realize how hurtful her comments can be. She was probably completely clueless. And I always bought my tests from http://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/. Super cheap and great customer service! And you can search online for coupons to make them even cheaper! Good luck!

  2. It’s those reasons exactly why I love that this state has so many self checkouts, and the only time I need to go in a line is to buy formula. I hate chatty cashiers when buying something so personal…

    I remember when I went to get my test after my husband deployed because we had tried, and I was already experiencing a little cramping. The cashier just would not stop talking about being pregnant, and how it was for her, and how she loves how easy it was for her to get pregnant… I couldn’t take it or get out of that line quick enough since our NEX doesn’t have self checkout, and I had already been on base for my daughter’s doctors appointment.

    I ended up miscarrying that Monday. My second miscarriage. I have fertility issues as well. I know exactly why you hate shopping at the stores too… Some people are just to nosy for their own good.

    I’ll definitely send positive prayers your way that you’ll get a positive. Good luck with everything.. If you ever need to talk, you know where to find me.

  3. Some people are just insensitive. I’ve dealt with fertility issues as well and know how hurtful people can be without even thinking. Not long after finding out that I had fertility issues, my brother-in-law played a game on his mom while she was visiting us by sending her a picture of a positive pregnancy test, knowing that we were trying to get pregnant at the time. I don’t think anyone can understand how painful the process is until they go through it themselves.
    I was exactly like you- I bought a pregnancy test every month even when I knew that there was no chance. It wasn’t until I finally let go that I actually got a positive. Not telling you to give up, but stress really does affect your body. I know that it is wayy easier said than done though. Sending prayers your way!

  4. I tried to write this up on my phone days ago and it wouldn’t go because it was too long. Anyway: I am sorry this happened. It is such a crap feeling. It hurts because no matter what you do or where you go, there really isn’t anywhere that is “safe”. In a situation like this, you can also choose not to answer. They’re asking a private question; you don’t owe an explanation if you don’t want to give it. I usually stare at them blankly and say, “I’m sorry, what?” that gives them a minute to decide how, if at all, to rephrase their question so they don’t sound like a jerk. Or, you can always lie. What does it matter? You can tell them that you’re buying the tests for your great-aunt because you don’t have the heart to tell her she’s actually going through The Change. Anything that will give you a laugh for a moment and confuse them.

    I understand about you taking a break from social media sites. I’ve done that too. Thinking of you.

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