The trouble with people is not that they don’t know but that they know so much that ain’t so.
One of my friends posted a Babble article entitled 24 Things Single People Are Tired of Hearing. Reading it, I saw many of the things to easily be changed to: 24 Things Infertile People Are Tired of Hearing. So here it is:
“How are you still single? You’re so great.”“How are you not a mom yet? You’re so great with kids!”
- “It’ll happen when you least expect it.” (yeah, we hear the same)
“Don’t you ever get lonely?”“Don’t you ever feel your life is empty without kids?”
- “Aren’t you worried you won’t be able to have kids?” (yeah, pretty much hear the same if you haven’t disclosed your infertility struggles)
“Are you seeing anyone?”“Are you trying yet?” “You should try online dating. My friend met their husband/wife that way.”“You should try going on a vacation. My friend got pregnant that way.” “They don’t deserve you.”“You don’t deserve to go through this.” “You are such a catch.”“You are such a motherly type.” “Don’t worry, you’ll find someone someday.”“Don’t worry, you’ll have kids some day.” “He’s just not ready for a serious commitment yet.”“God must not think you are ready yet.” “One day when you’re married, you’ll wish you were single.”“One day when you have kids, you’ll wish you didn’t.” “There are plenty of fish in the sea.”“There are plenty of ways to become a mother.” “You’re just too picky.”“You’re just too stressed.” “Just don’t turn into some crazy cat lady.”“Just don’t turn into some crazy temperature-taking, chart-making lady.” “She probably just lost your number.”“You probably are just doing it wrong.” At a wedding: “You better get out there, they’re doing the bouquet toss.”At a wedding: “You’d better start having kids, you’re not getting any younger.”
- “You’re just too busy right now.” (uh yup… same too)
“You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.”“You have to find the perfect time before it’s right to have kids.” In reference to your best friend: “Have you guys ever thought of dating?”In reference to your best friend, “Have you ever thought of using me as a sperm donor/surrogate?” “I can’t wait to meet your future spouse, they are going to be amazing.”“I can’t wait to meet your future kids, they are going to be amazing.” “We’ll all be laughing about this someday.”“It’ll all be worth it some day.” “You should let me set you up, I know the perfect person for you.”“Let me get you the name of this herbalist I know, he’s the perfect person to help.”
- “Don’t give up, it’ll happen.” (Yup. Same again.)
You don’t need anyone.”“You don’t need kids.”
What are some of the things you continually hear that you roll your eyes at?